I never imagined that working from home would turn me into my wife’s full-time servant. But that’s exactly what happened after my twin boys were born and my wife, Ruby, returned to her demanding job.
Initially, it made sense for me to take care of the kids and household chores while Ruby worked. But as time passed, I realized I was shouldering all the responsibilities, from cooking and cleaning to errands and childcare.
Ruby would call me from work, asking me to pick up her dry cleaning or start the laundry, without considering my own full-time job. I felt frustrated and exhausted, but I didn’t know how to express my feelings.
One day, my mother unexpectedly visited and saw me juggling work, laundry, and dinner. She was shocked and concerned. “What’s going on?” she asked, noticing the toll it was taking on me.
I confided in her, sharing my feelings of resentment and burnout. Mom’s expression changed from concern to determination. “This is unacceptable,” she said. “You deserve better.”
Without warning, Mom called Ruby and informed her that she would be taking care of the kids for the weekend, and I would be going to a spa with friends. Ruby was shocked and panicked, realizing she would have to handle everything alone.
Mom firmly told Ruby, “You’ve been taking advantage of him for too long. It’s time you understand what it’s like to handle everything yourself.” Ruby was speechless.
That spa weekend was a revelation. For the first time in years, I felt carefree, without the weight of household responsibilities. Meanwhile, Ruby struggled to manage the kids, cleaning, and laundry.
When I returned home, Ruby was waiting at the door, exhausted and apologetic. “I had no idea how much you were handling,” she said, tears in her eyes. “I’m sorry.”
We hugged, and I whispered, “It’s okay, but we need to work together.” Ruby agreed to cut back on her work hours and contribute more at home.
In the following weeks, things improved. Ruby kept her promise, and we began to feel like a team again. I learned it’s okay to ask for help and demand respect and balance in our relationship.
My mother’s intervention was a turning point. It forced Ruby to recognize my value and contributions to our family. I’m grateful for that unexpected visit and the lessons we’ve learned along the way.
Our marriage is stronger now, and I feel empowered to communicate my needs. I realize that being a work-from-home dad doesn’t mean I’m available 24/7. I deserve respect, balance, and a supportive partner.
