Every bride dreams of a flawless wedding day, but one couple’s pursuit of perfection has sparked a heated debate online. The bride-to-be took to Reddit’s “Am I The Asshole” forum to gauge public opinion on her wedding guest rules, which have led to a wave of cancellations.
The couple had sent a list of strict guidelines to their guests, including an “unplugged ceremony” and dinner, banning phones except in emergencies. However, many guests found this restriction excessive, particularly parents who needed to check on their children. The bride remained firm, insisting that only genuine emergencies justified an exception.
Another contentious rule dictated a strict black-only dress code, with women required to wear dresses and men, tuxedos. This edict upset several guests, including the bride’s aunt, who had recently started wearing colorful clothing again after losing her husband. The bride’s future sister-in-law, who suffers from body dysmorphia and prefers wearing pants, was also denied an exception.
The couple’s demands extended to the bridesmaids, who were instructed to maintain their weight after pre-ordering dresses months in advance. This rule infuriated the bride’s mother, who predicted the wedding was “doomed from the start.” Some bridesmaids threatened to drop out, and last-minute cancellations began rolling in.
Further controversy arose when the bride requested that her maid of honor’s daughter, the flower girl, be left with a babysitter during the ceremony. The maid of honor refused, leading to the loss of the flower girl.
Reddit users overwhelmingly deemed the couple unreasonable, citing their inflexible and demanding rules. Commenters emphasized that while couples have the right to plan their wedding, guests are not obligated to comply with excessive demands. The consensus was clear: the couple’s strict rules were alienating their loved ones.
This story raises important questions about the balance between a couple’s wedding vision and the comfort and needs of their guests. Where do you draw the line between reasonable expectations and unreasonable demands?
