1. It’s not just you
If the person you’re dating is ready to break the holy vow of marriage, it stands to reason that he is probably cheating on you or having affairs with other women without thinking twice.
2. You will never be important
If you go out with a married man, you will probably share him with his wife and kids. Get ready for the fact that you will never be his first priority.
He will always pick them when he doesn’t have much time. If nothing else, he will have to be very close to his family in order to hide your affair. As long as he is married, that will always be the case.
You should also agree that married men should be accessible whenever you need them. Your lover will need you to be ready at any time when he has time to spend time with you if you want to spend time with him. He won’t always be there for you, but you shouldn’t plan anything around when he is ready to see you.
3. Your relationship will never feel “right”
Being with a married man might make you feel good for a short time, but it will cause problems in the long run. After the first few months, the connection will always make you feel bad or worried. You will always be aware of the fact that he is married, even when you are having the best times with him. When he’s with you, he might not answer his phone or tell his wife he’s at a meeting or with his friends when he’s really with you. No matter what, you’ll always feel like something is wrong. You are also doing something wrong.
4. He most likely isn’t telling the truth about his marriage and wife.
Men who are married often lie to their affair partners about what’s going on at home. He could say she is mean, doesn’t care about him, or won’t have s3x with him. You can be sure that this only affects one side.
You might be tempted to believe this story. Because if his wife is bad, it’s much easier for you to keep having an affair. Instead, try to picture her as a person with feelings who is likely to be very upset about this. Also, keep in mind that a married man who talks badly about his wife will also shame you if your affair is found out.
5. You can be replaced, and this bond is short-lived
No matter what he says or what you hope for in your relationship, it will only last for a short time. You can be replaced. If he thinks that your affair could be found out, he will end it right away. He will switch things up if he finds someone more interesting. He won’t talk to you or pay attention to you for a few weeks while he’s with his wife.
6. You are in charge of the pain you cause.
If you’re thinking about having an affair with a married man, you might tell yourself that you’re not responsible for his marriage. You are not the one who made the promise, so no one should expect you to keep it. In the end, that doesn’t work.
It was your choice to date a married man, and you were responsible for it. You will stay in a relationship with lies and cheating as long as you stay together. It’s sad but true.
You have a choice to make. You are doing something that could have an effect on other people. He may have chosen to cheat on his wife, but you will have to accept that you are a threat to the marriage.
7. He’s not going to leave his wife
If you’re in love with a married man and wish he would get a divorce so you can be together, you need to face the facts. The “normal” and important connection between you two is hard for him. The things he does have already shown you who he is. It is very rare that you will be the only one.
Realise that you’re not his top priority right now, and he’s not going to leave his family for you. What’s the harm? Because you’ve shown that you can keep him happy without getting married or being in a serious relationship. It’s just a general lack of drive to work harder.
Also, he knows that getting a divorce will cost a lot of money. His wife will likely bring that up if proof of your connection is shown. For him, the price of leaving everything for you is too high, no matter what he says now.
8. You’ll have to wait a long time.
Moving forward is what every relationship wants to do. It will stop moving and fall apart if you don’t. When things are going well, you might set clear goals, like moving in together, travelling, or getting to know each other’s families. Men who are married can’t do this, for clear reasons. He will only spend time with you when he is free, not when you want to. He might not be able to give you his time for a long time. He might even have to wait to call or text you because his wife might be nearby or know what’s going on between you two. If you’re waiting for his marriage to end or for him to leave his wife, you should give up now because it’s not likely to happen.
