Long-term relationships have their ups and downs, as anyone who’s been in one knows. Dating someone while living apart is not the same as living together. When you live apart, you choose when to spend time with each other. You spend a lot of your daily life apart, though. Things change when you move in together. Right now, you and your partner live your daily lives together. Over time, that’s sometimes all it feels like you’re doing: living together in the same house but having different lives, like roommates. Here are six signs that your partner isn’t the person you love as much as they used to be.
A lot of the time, you’re reading this because you already think your relationship isn’t right. Things aren’t as exciting between you and your partner as they used to be. After having fun together, you two are now just going about your daily lives.
You and your partner may look more like roommates than lovers. If you’re still not sure, here are six signs that this is the case.
1. Loss of close physical contact
They are a young gay LGBTQ couple who are having relationship problems and fight at home.
Intimacy and physical affection are important parts of a healthy partnership. If the amount of physical closeness between you and your partner has gone down, it could mean that they see you more as a friend than a lover. Stress, illness, or changes in lifestyle are some of the things that can cause a lack of physical intimacy. However, it can also mean that you or your partner have lost interest in a love relationship.
2. Your lives are different.
A couple at home is upset. A handsome man and a pretty young woman are not getting along. Sitting on the couch together. Issues with family. I can’t believe this is making us fight again.
If you and your partner don’t spend much time together or feel like you have different lives, it could mean that they see you more as a roommate than a partner. It’s normal to have different hobbies and interests, but if you and your partner don’t do anything together or spend quality time together, it can make you feel lonely in the relationship. You and your partner should do more together than just say goodbye and goodnight every morning and evening.
3. Not getting enough love and attention
A pretty African American girl is hugging her beautiful boyfriend and sad-looking at the camera. She is alone on a white background.
A loving relationship needs both people to show love and pay attention to each other. If your partner stops showing love by kissing, hugging, holding hands, or giving you attention, it could mean that they see you more as a roommate than a romantic partner. This can lead to feelings of being rejected and alone.
4. You don’t show how you feel.
A sad couple is lying on the couch.
It’s important for a healthy connection that you both share your feelings with each other. If you and your partner have stopped talking about your feelings or experiences, it could mean that you see each other more as roommates than as a love partner. In the same way, if you’re scared to tell your partner how you feel, do it anyway. Sharing your feelings with someone can help you feel supported and understood, and it can also help you build a stronger emotional bond.
5. Lack of Drive
Life on the web. Focused young couple who are addicted to the internet spending their free time apart sitting on the couch at home and using their phones to shop, chat, or browse the web.
Passion in a relationship can be shown through the body and the mind. If you think your partner no longer cares about you or the relationship, it could mean that they see you more as a friend than a lover. When there isn’t enough passion, there may be less sexual action or sexual intimacy that feels routine and dull.
6. You no longer talk to each other
After a fight over lunch at a coffee shop, two unhappy homosexuals didn’t talk to each other: the sad redhead woman was feeling alone while her African girlfriend sat next to her and used her cell phone.
A good relationship depends on both people being able to talk to each other. The way two people talk to each other can show what kind of relationship they have and how deep it goes. You and your partner may not be talking to each other as much as lovers do, where they share their hopes and dreams, plan for the future, or show love and respect. If you don’t talk about important things or dream about your future together, it’s a strong sign that something is wrong.
What are you going to do?
Being honest with your partner and yourself is the first thing you need to do. You and your partner may need to have an open and honest talk about what you want from the relationship if you think it has turned into more of a friendship than a relationship. Communication is also very important in a good relationship, so make sure that both people feel heard and understood when you do talk about these things. After that, you can make a plan for what you both need to get your relationship going again. It could be setting up regular date nights. You might want to find out why one or both of you no longer wants to be personal with each other. Therapy, both one-on-one and with a partner, can also help a lot here.
After figuring out what needs to change for your relationship to get better, you should do something about it. Making time for you and your partner to work through these problems together is important. This could mean going to therapy or just talking about things when they come up. Also, it means being honest about how you feel about the relationship in general. After this, you can decide if the relationship is worth keeping going or if you both want to move on without each other. Remember that both people in a relationship have to want and work hard for it to work.
In Short
To find a balance between friendship and romantic love, relationships need work, conversation, and a commitment from both people. Seeing any of these signs in your relationship? It might be time to talk about them with your partner and work on getting back together. You can work on fixing your relationship and making your love stronger by being open and honest about how you feel and what you need.
