My aunt and her adopted daughter want to steal an old family ring from the jewelry box of my late grandmother.
One woman said that in her family, the oldest daughter always got the most valuable ring. As per custom, she should have gotten the ring, but after her grandmother died, things didn’t go as planned.
The 21-year-old Reddit user said that her grandma died of Alzheimer’s in the end. When she died, her family started to fight.
She left behind a ring that her mom had given her. Her grandma owned it and had planned to give it to her only granddaughter, but after she died, things didn’t go as planned.
The Reddit user said she loved the ring since she was a child and was thrilled to get it. That’s all she asked her grandmother for, she said.
The ring would only be given to the oldest girl, as was the family tradition. First Poster’s (OP) mother was younger than her grandmother, who had two children.
As the only girl among the grandkids, OP’s aunt, who had two boys, talked her sister into giving OP the family ring. Everything changed when OP’s grandmother died.
OP’s aunt took in a 17-year-old girl when she was only 14. Since then, no one had brought up the family tradition, so OP thought that the girl’s presence wouldn’t change her chances of getting the ring.
OP planned to get the ring before the daughter of her aunt.
After OP’s grandma died, everyone cleaned her house. OP says that her grandmother was sent to a facility after being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, which is why her house needed to be cleaned.
While OP was cleaning the house, she heard her adopted daughter and her aunt talking quietly in the kitchen. As they were talking, she walked up to them and listened.
She was shocked to learn that they were going to get the ring from her grandmother’s jewelry box before she got there. OP’s cousin thought she earned the ring since she was the oldest granddaughter. OP made it clear:
“I was upset because my aunt changed her mind about giving it to me in the end.”
When OP learned about their plans, she chose to get the ring before her aunt’s daughter did. She told her family that she had to leave early because her boss had called her in for work one night while they were out to dinner.
She didn’t go to her job, but instead went back to her grandmother’s house and took the ring out of the case. She went home right away, before anyone else could come back. She wrote:
“I don’t know what will happen today when my aunt finds out it’s gone.”
After telling her story on Reddit, she asked people there if she made the right choice by taking the ring. In reaction, someone said that the OP’s grandmother gave her the ring because of her promise, not because she was the biological granddaughter.
The user said that the OP’s aunt and cousin made a mistake when they chose to take the ring. She asked OP what her grandma thought about seeing her kids fight over a ring.
Another person agreed with the first post, but said that she didn’t need to say bad things about her cousin because she couldn’t change her decision to be adopted.
After sharing information from her grandmother’s will, the original poster changed her post to make it clear that the ring goes to the oldest biological daughter of her youngest daughter. Also, her aunt was told to clean up after herself when she got angry and left the house, telling OP and her mother to do it themselves.
She thinks she should get the ring because she thinks she is the real granddaughter. She went on to say that her grandmother thought “blood ties were more important.”
Someone said that the OP and her grandmother were to blame for treating the other girl like a “second-class member” because she was adopted. Since the adopted child was adopted later in life, someone else commented on how hard it must have been for her to fit in with the family. Most people who used it thought the whole family was to blame. People on Reddit have also said the following:
