In November 2022, an anonymous user turned to Reddit’s “Off My Chest” forum to share a deeply personal story. She began by explaining that she had been with her fiancé, Ryan, for six years, and they had been engaged for the past eight months. She managed most of the wedding planning, though Ryan occasionally provided input.
A month earlier, in October, Ryan had made a surprising suggestion after discussing wedding plans with his coworkers. He proposed that she should not wear a white wedding dress.
The Unexpected Request
The poster was initially puzzled by Ryan’s suggestion. She thought it might be related to his artistic inclinations and how he envisioned the wedding photos. However, the request seemed odd, and it lingered in her mind.
Despite her confusion, she was determined to wear a white dress. She told Ryan her decision, and though he seemed annoyed, he eventually dropped the matter.
The Dress Purchase and Its Aftermath
Two weeks before their wedding, the woman bought her wedding dress, sparking a major argument with Ryan. He insisted on seeing the dress, but she refused, wanting to keep it a surprise. When she revealed that the dress was white, Ryan’s reaction was explosive.
He believed that brides should only wear white if they were “pure.” This revelation shocked her, especially since wearing white is a common tradition for brides. She pressed him further and discovered that he thought her past relationship made her unworthy of a white dress.
Relationship Background and Confrontation
Their relationship began when she was 21 and Ryan was 20. Ryan had been a virgin, while she had a previous partner from high school. Although they initially had insecurities, they seemed to have moved past them—until now.
Ryan even tried to get his mother to support his viewpoint. Instead, she sided with the poster. A heated argument ensued in their living room, with Ryan’s mother suggesting he should also wear red if he was so concerned about purity. This confrontation left Ryan in tears, but he remained adamant that his fiancée wearing white would mislead their wedding guests.
Reevaluating the Relationship
The argument left the woman disgusted and questioning her future with Ryan. His fixation on her past, especially her loss of virginity at 18, baffled her. She took to Reddit to vent her frustrations and seek advice.
In a later update on the “Dating Advice” forum, dated November 24, 2022, she revealed that she had broken off the engagement. Now in her late 20s, she was preparing for her first date in six years at a waterfront seafood restaurant in North Carolina.
Commenters on her post suggested she wear a red dress for the occasion, perhaps a symbol of moving forward.
What Do You Think?
Do you agree with her decision to end the engagement, or would you have handled it differently? Share your thoughts. And if this story intrigued you, click here to read about a man who wanted his fiancée’s purity to be verified in front of their family.
